This is why moving sucks.

About a month ago I moved into my 4th apartment since moving out of my parents house. One thing about moving. It sucks.

But it sucks in levels. First you're all excited about finding a new place. You see it and immediately envision your new life there. You sign a lease and your content. Then come the fees. Everyone seems to forget about the fees. Application fee, security deposit, pet fee, cable setup fee, parking, first months rent..etc etc etc. You basically drain your entire bank account before you even get the keys.

Then there's packing. There's levels to packing as well. You look around at all your crap and estimate that you'll need a certain number of boxes. Take that number and multiply by two because you WILL need them. Every time I move I tell myself I'm going to minimize. HA.

Pro tip: down a bottle of wine and throw away everything that reminds of you things you don't want to remember. Like that shirt you wore the night you got rejected and can now never wear again. 

If you're moving into your first place or just want new stuff, you have the pleasure of getting to quickly realize how unnecessarily expensive furnishing an apartment is. Now I know what every one is going to say. "just go to Ikea, they have everything and it's cheap."

Umm yeah. Ikea sucks. You may think its like mecca for interior decorating but you're wrong. Unless you have a boyfriend willing to asseble everything from a couch to some storage bins (EVEN THE BINS DONT COME ASSEMBLED). THEN if you ever decide to move again...RIP to all the things you built yourself without really reading the instructions. Notice all the broken dressers in front of houses on your block? Those all belong to Ikea enthusiasts who thought their $100 MALM dresser would last through their twenties.

 

Here's what I can say about moving around a lot. If you need to stay in the same city, and you're young, move as much as you can. Explore new neighborhoods. But move for yourself. Don't move to leave your problems behind or to potentially be closer to someone. That never works. Your problems will follow you wherever you go so at least make sure you like where you're coming home to.

What's my age again?

After 21 birthday's start to become sad. You always feel awesome that it's your birthday, but it's never really as good as you hope it will be. You have all these expectations that don't ever REALLY get met within those 24 hours. For me birthday's are just a reminder that another year has gone by I'm still not where I want to be. [Of course I feel "blessed" to be alive to see another birthday blah blah blah]

I was told that your odd years are always the best ones. Which, thinking back, could be true. (with the exception of 19 which I feel like just sucks all around for everyone) I predict 23 being a good year. I mean 23 worked for Jordan right?

The mantra for my birthday has been "nobody likes you when you're 23" (*Mark Hoppus voice*). You're  young enough to make mistakes but old enough to know better. It's kind of the best of both worlds in a messed up way. Still, nobody takes you seriously yet so you might as well do whatever the hell  makes you happy.

Misogyny at it's finest.

A couple days ago Floyd Mayweather posted this tweet:

Dress how you want to be addressed pic.twitter.com/Imj5yRDjh3



— Floyd Mayweather (@FloydMayweather) June 13, 2014

I didn't expect to get as angry as I did because I don't really consider myself as someone who dresses exceptionally revealing or sexy (unless the occasion calls for it) but for some reason this really pissed me off. Men like Floyd Mayweather see women as objects that they can comment on and control for their own entertainment.

Saying that a women is asking to be disrespected because of what she is wearing is absolutely ridiculous. Especially coming from a man who beats the shit out of people for a living. Sure, what someone wears is definitely a reflection of how they are viewed as a person but it is not what defines them as a person. As a woman I am free to show any part of my body that I please and I still deserve the same amount of respect as anyone else.

Are men so afraid or threatened by the female anatomy that they have to publicly disrespect women who are confident enough to wear whatever they please? I don't think it's so much that are afraid or threatened but that they are so insecure in their own self control and abilities to control themselves around women who dress "sexy". It's easy for a man to see a woman dressed scandalously, pick her up, sleep with her and then call her a slut. It seems that it would be a lot more difficult for a man to control himself around a woman wearing a certain outfit..and as punishment for their lack of self control men expect women to dress conservatively as to not put them in compromising positions where they're unable to think with the brain inside their heads.

AND HONESTLY. It doesn't even matter how women dress. Women get harassed and objectified every day, walking down the street, wearing basic shit like jeans and t-shirts. It's just so much easier for men to blame women for their actions saying that their outfit is what caused them to act the way that they did.

Things like this are what makes women think that things like rape and assault are their own fault and not the fault of their attacker. Like they should be blamed for being assaulted because of what they are wearing rather than the fucked up thoughts that men have when they see a women in a particular outfit.

Misogyny at it's finest.

I'll say things that are serious and put them in a joke form so people can enjoy them. We laugh to keep from crying.

I have a love/hate relationship with Kanye West. I say this like I actually know him personally...But I look at everything from a PR perspective. At first I thought he was arrogant and everything he said deserved the hashtag #richpeopleprobs. But I'm starting to understand where he's coming from and why he acts the way he does.

He considers himself a visionary. and if you really look back at what he has accomplished, he is. His approach is just one that makes people angry, which causes people to not take him seriously, which then makes him angry. I get it, it's a vicious cycle. It's extremely frustrating when people don't take you seriously, and your means of expressing yourself, the only way you really know how, is the main reason people write you off. I feel you, Kanye.

I'm a huge Kanye West (the musician) fan. No matter what I say or what he does I'm gonna keep listening to his music.

He was on the second night of Late Night with Seth Meyers and I thought he handled himself very well. You can tell he wasn't coached into saying things for interview purposes but it's so funny how hard he tries to please, while simultaneously preaching that he doesn't care.

Anyways, I'm really excited for Seth Meyers taking over Late Night. He has great chemistry with guests.

[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDFECwrGnzI?list=PLJaq64dKJZoqUES1U2FZDJ30BWI1T1xMg&w=560&h=315]

 

 

What defines you?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c62Aqdlzvqk

This woman is totally inspiring. Like puts everyone to shame how inspiring.
2 things. 1.I love a good public speaker. She was funny, heartwarming, interacted with the audience and was confident as hell doing it. 2.I love people who rationalize negative situations and turn them into positive things for themself. Lizzie could have spiraled into a pit of depression and self loathing after being mocked on the internet. Instead she turned it in to a career for herself.
And aside from overcoming her syndrome, she put herself out there, in the public eye, on purpose, which is not an easy thing to do. This is awesome. Definitely worth watching.

She kept saying, figure out what defines you. I have no idea what defines me. Good for her for figuring it out. AND she's twenty-five. If she can figure out, we all can.

From a man's perspective

Men and women belong to different species and communications between them is still in its infancy.
- Bill Cosby 

I stumbled upon this YouTube channel called "Guy Moments". Even though it is aimed towards men and the annoying things women do, I was laughing the whole time. This video in particular, "Just Come Over" was super relateable and really shows the difference between men and women.

 

A couple things to learn from this video:

• Women over analyze everything. Men over simplify everything. 
• Women are stubborn. Men don't realize that they're just as stubborn as we are. 
• Women just want men to say what they want to hear. Even if men don't really mean it, it's still comforting. 

This video is hilarious and I can definitely see where the guy is coming from. ALTHOUGH in her defense if a guy said "I ain't trippin" I would have reacted in the same way. A simple "yeah come through" or a "nah I'm good" would have sufficed. 

Also, the word "female" is oddly degrading. Just say "bitch" if that's what you really mean. 

Regardless, this is relateable for both men and women. Let's just face it, we're both always going to think that we're right. Women will always be stubborn and men will never quite understand how to deal with it.